Queer life of Vee

"So what are you", someone asked.

Perplexed and not entirely sure if i knew what they were asking.

"Pardon, what do you mean, what am i?", i asked.

I guess at this point with their body language, i somewhat assumed that they were asking me to perhaps explain myself to them, in terms of my sexual orientation.

So they asked again if i identified as a 'bisexual' or 'lesbian'.
No 'in between', no room for anything else.
It was either i was a 'bisexual' or a 'lesbian'.

You see my sense of humour is pretty "sick' (for the lack of a better word) and then there is my imagination. I imagine everything. I love it! My imagination is so vivid that it keeps me entertained/worry, and i often am giggling or laughing out loudly. You may ask why this random line...umm because its very much connected to my attraction to people and because i am/can be so random.

Anyways back to the story,

I often try and explain to people who do ask about my sexual orientation, that i am extremely attracted to 'smart intelligent people', and when i say this, i don't mean that they have to have several degrees under their belt (i mean its nice to have, but not necessarily important). I am attracted to people who give a damn about the world, people who are passionate and people who are 'aware', people who can have a meaningful conversation without bragging. I am attracted to people who are humble, people who laugh, people with vivid and 'sick' imaginations and people who read. I am attracted to people who love solitude but also investing intentionally in their intimate circles of friendship/relationships. So my attraction is based on those qualities.

Even after explaining the above, they still ask, "so are you a lesbian? or bisexual?".

Its sometimes hard to explain to people that i am attracted to individuals in the 'not so normal way',I also don't appreciate being boxed because it frames peoples thoughts and perceptions of me (but i have started doing so as its easier for people to understand me)

I am attracted to people that i like. I am attracted to people who have the qualities i have shared above.

I have recently started saying i fit in the 'queer' box simply because its easier for people to understand i guess, its quite difficult for me to explain my attraction but its equally difficult to explain 'me' based on my relationship and the sex of the person in the relationship.

I wish people could see beyond that and focus on what truly matters. Some are still figuring things out. Some, like me comfortably or hesitantly identify as a free 'queer' soul or preferably a 'free soul'.

Its IDAHOT today (if you don't know what this means you can google it to find out more information) and the theme is "Families". I am thankful for my family (biological and adopted in the traditional and non- traditional sense).

I am blessed that i have a family who love me for me, i am thankful that they shower me with love. I am thankful for my family and friends who have become family, for respecting me and my own definition of the self - "no label".

I am grateful that they remind me that my jokes are not as funny as i think they are (i reckon my jokes are hilarious, they just don't share my vivid and 'sick' sense of humour).

I am thankful for family and for allowing me to be  'label-free, free queer soul'.

Lets continue to celebrate and love us in all our diversities.